How to Hire the Right Nanny: A Real-World Guide for NYC Families
Bringing a new nanny into your home is more than a hiring decision—it’s a relationship built on trust, care, and daily connection. Whether you’re looking for full-time help, after-school support, or a newborn care specialist, the process can feel overwhelming if you’re not sure where to start.
At Manhattan Nannies, we’ve helped hundreds of New York families find their perfect match. And we know that when it comes to hiring a nanny, thoughtful preparation makes all the difference.
Here’s a real-world guide to help you get started.
1. Get Clear on What You Need
Before diving into interviews, take a moment to reflect on your day-to-day life. What kind of support would make things feel easier or more balanced?
Do you need someone during work hours, or just for after-school pickup and homework help?
Will the nanny need to drive, swim, or travel with your family?
Are there light housekeeping or family assistant duties involved?
What kind of energy or personality would mesh best with your kids?
Knowing what you’re looking for upfront helps you focus on candidates who truly fit—not just on paper, but in practice.
2. Ask the Right Questions
Interviews can be a bit nerve-wracking—for both you and the nanny. But they’re also a great opportunity to have a real conversation about values, routines, and expectations.
Here are a few questions we love:
“How do you handle a toddler who refuses to nap?”
“What would a typical day look like with our family?”
“Can you tell me about a moment you really connected with a child?”
“What do you need from a family to feel supported in your role?”
Look for thoughtful answers and examples from real experiences. And trust your gut—chemistry matters just as much as qualifications.
3. Pay Attention to Their Experience—and Their References
Every family is different, but most parents feel more at ease when a nanny has worked with similar-aged children and stayed with past families for a year or more.
Here’s what to look for:
A solid track record (especially in NYC or similar urban settings)
Experience with multiple age groups, especially if you have more than one child
References who speak to their communication, flexibility, and professionalism
At Manhattan Nannies, we vet each candidate thoroughly, from background checks to in-depth interviews and reference calls—so by the time you meet someone, you know they’ve already met our high standards.
4. Lean on Your Agency for Support
One of the best things about working with an agency? You don’t have to do it alone.
We’ll help you define your needs, connect you with qualified candidates, and guide you through interviews, offers, and onboarding. We’re here to answer the tricky questions (like pay rates, PTO, and contracts) and to support both you and your nanny after the placement begins.
It’s our job to make this feel smooth—not stressful.
5. Start with a Trial Period
Even the best match can take a little time to settle in. That’s why we always recommend a short trial period, usually 1–2 weeks, before finalizing the placement.
During this time:
Create a simple routine or daily outline to follow
Check in with your nanny at the end of each day
Encourage open, two-way communication
Be patient—adjusting takes time, for kids and caregivers alike
A trial period lets everyone ease into the new rhythm and work out any early hiccups together.
Build That Harmonious Relationship
Hiring a nanny isn’t just about checking boxes—it’s about building a relationship with someone who will play a meaningful role in your family’s everyday life.
If you’re just starting your search or have questions along the way, we’re here to help. At Manhattan Nannies, we care deeply about making thoughtful, lasting matches that bring peace of mind to parents and meaningful work to exceptional caregivers.
Let’s find someone who feels like the right fit—not just for today, but for the long haul.
📌 Ready to get started?
We’d love to learn more about your family. Get in touch with our team to begin your search.